Foundations For Christian Living - Lesson Six Discipler's Notes

The Lessons (continued)

Lesson Six - How To Understand Your
Place In The Home Discipler's Notes

How to Understand Your Place In The Home

How are things at home? God intends for you to have a happy home. If you will obey the clear teaching of Scripture in this vital area, the relationships at home will be a blessing and not a burden. Success at home will provide strength and confidence for daily living. This lesson will challenge you to fulfill your God-given responsibilities in yoru family so that you might glorify God and have a happy home.
Review last week's memory verse,
Psalm 119:11. See if the disciple has anything to share from his daily Bible reading. Begin the session with prayer. Pray especially for any known family problems that your disciple has discussed with you.

The Permanence of Marriage

1 Who created the home? (Genesis 2:22-24)
God created the home during man's innocency.

2 Can you succeed in your home without the Lord? (Psalm 127:1)
No, all efforts without Him are in vain.

3 God wonderfully designed your marriage to be permanent. How is this stated in Mark 10:6-9? What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.

4 If your marriage is to be permanent, you must follow God's plan. Notice God's plan for each spouse as indicated in the following passages:

Husband

- Who has the authority over him? (I Corinthians 11:3) Christ is the head of the man

- What is his role in the home? (Ephesians 5:23) The husband is to be the leader.

- What is he commanded to do? (Epliesians 5:25, 28-29)
The husband should love and cherish his wife.

Wife

- Who has authority over her? (Ephesians 5:23) The husband is the head of the wife.

- Why did God create her? (Genesis 2:18) The wife was created to complete the husband.

- What is she commanded to do? (Ephesians 5:22) The wife should submit to her husband.

5 A happy home is one in which the Spirit of God is in control of each individual (Ephesians 5: 18). List the evidences of a Spirit-controlled life:

(Ephesians 5:19) Singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord.

(Ephesians 5:20) Giving thanks always for all things.

(Ephesians 5:21) Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God The fact that God created the institution of the family indicates that God has a design and purpose for its existence. Man cannot make the family work without God or His instructions in His Word.

Genesis 2:24 Marriage is leaving, cleaving, and weaving!

Breaking the marriage relationship shatters the picture that God intended. The marriage relationship helps us understand Christ's unbreakable love for the church.

It is important for each partner in the marriage relationship to concentrate on his/her own responsibilities and not try to change the spouse by pointing out inadequacies. See Colossians 3:19 (husband's role).

The best marriage partner is a saved, obedient, surrendered spouse who is controlled by the Spirit of God. Discuss how happy a home can be when each person is exhibiting the fruit of the Spirit in his life (love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance).

The Peril of Divorce

6 How does God view divorce? (Malachi 2:15-16) God hates divorce!

7 Why is divorce never a biblical option? (Mark 10:6-9)
God commanded that marriage be permanent.

8 What does Christ call those who remarry after a divorce? (Matthew 19:9
God calls them adulterers and adultresses.

The Preparation of Children

9 How does the Bible describe children? (Psalm 127:3)
Children are called an heritage of the Lord

10 What are children commanded to do? (Ephesians 6:1-3)
Children are commanded to honor and obey their parents.

11 How can you raise godly children? (Proverbs 22:6)
I can raise godly children by training them in the ways of the Lord.

12 What do the following verses state regarding child rearing?

Ephesians 6:4 And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath

Proverbs 13:24 He that spareth the rod hateth his son

Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from the child

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto they children

MEMORIZE
Joshua 24:15b As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.

What will you do as a result of what you have learned from God's Word?
(James 1:22-25) Matthew 19:9 makes allowance only for breaking the engagement agreement due to fornication, not breaking the marriage relationship because of adultery (cf. verse 6). Matthew 1:1820 illustrates this truth.

If the disciple has experienced a divorce you may remind him of I John 1:9. Encourage the disciple to confess this as a sin and understand that God forgives him. From this point on, he can set out to live in obedience to the Word of God. Admonish him to accept God's teaching on this subject so that he may experience God's blessing and spare his children of the same experience.

Children should be viewed as a sacred trust to be given back to God.

Teach children to obey immediately, cheerfully, and completely.

Discuss the importance of family devotions. Give some suggestions of how to have them.

ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

Several family strengthening resources are available from Preach the Word Ministries that may be helpful for the disciple in a specific area.

A two-tape set on divorce and remarriage by Dr. Mark Simmons is available from Preach the Word Ministries.

Give the disciple Lesson 7. Complete a Progress Report and submit it to the church office. Make an appointment for your next session.

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Lesson Six - How To Understand Your Place In The Home	Discipler's Notes
How to Understand Your Place In The Home How are things at home? God intends for you to have a happy home. If you will obey the clear teaching of Scripture in this vital area, the relationships at home will be a blessing and not a burden. Success at home will provide strength and confidence for daily living. This lesson will challenge you to fulfill your God-given responsibilities in yoru family so that you might glorify God and have a happy home.	Review last week's memory verse, Psalm 119:11. See if the disciple has anything to share from his daily Bible reading. Begin the session with prayer. Pray especially for any known family problems that your disciple has discussed with you.
The Permanence of Marriage 1 Who created the home? (Genesis 2:22-24) God created the home during man's innocency. 2 Can you succeed in your home without the Lord? (Psalm 127:1) No, all efforts without Him are in vain. 3 God wonderfully designed your marriage to be permanent. How is this stated in Mark 10:6-9? What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder. 4 If your marriage is to be permanent, you must follow God's plan. Notice God's plan for each spouse as indicated in the following passages: Husband - Who has the authority over him? (I Corinthians 11:3) Christ is the head of the man - What is his role in the home? (Ephesians 5:23) The husband is to be the leader. - What is he commanded to do? (Epliesians 5:25, 28-29) The husband should love and cherish his wife. Wife - Who has authority over her? (Ephesians 5:23) The husband is the head of the wife. - Why did God create her? (Genesis 2:18) The wife was created to complete the husband. - What is she commanded to do? (Ephesians 5:22) The wife should submit to her husband. 5 A happy home is one in which the Spirit of God is in control of each individual (Ephesians 5: 18). List the evidences of a Spirit-controlled life: (Ephesians 5:19) Singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord. (Ephesians 5:20) Giving thanks always for all things. (Ephesians 5:21) Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God	The fact that God created the institution of the family indicates that God has a design and purpose for its existence. Man cannot make the family work without God or His instructions in His Word. Genesis 2:24 Marriage is leaving, cleaving, and weaving! Breaking the marriage relationship shatters the picture that God intended. The marriage relationship helps us understand Christ's unbreakable love for the church. It is important for each partner in the marriage relationship to concentrate on his/her own responsibilities and not try to change the spouse by pointing out inadequacies. See Colossians 3:19 (husband's role). The best marriage partner is a saved, obedient, surrendered spouse who is controlled by the Spirit of God. Discuss how happy a home can be when each person is exhibiting the fruit of the Spirit in his life (love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance).
The Peril of Divorce 6 How does God view divorce? (Malachi 2:15-16) God hates divorce! 7 Why is divorce never a biblical option? (Mark 10:6-9) God commanded that marriage be permanent. 8 What does Christ call those who remarry after a divorce? (Matthew 19:9 God calls them adulterers and adultresses. The Preparation of Children 9 How does the Bible describe children? (Psalm 127:3) Children are called an heritage of the Lord 10 What are children commanded to do? (Ephesians 6:1-3) Children are commanded to honor and obey their parents. 11 How can you raise godly children? (Proverbs 22:6) I can raise godly children by training them in the ways of the Lord. 12 What do the following verses state regarding child rearing? Ephesians 6:4 And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath Proverbs 13:24 He that spareth the rod hateth his son Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from the child Deuteronomy 6:6-7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto they children MEMORIZE Joshua 24:15b As for me and my house, we will serve the LORD. What will you do as a result of what you have learned from God's Word? (James 1:22-25)	Matthew 19:9 makes allowance only for breaking the engagement agreement due to fornication, not breaking the marriage relationship because of adultery (cf. verse 6). Matthew 1:1820 illustrates this truth. If the disciple has experienced a divorce you may remind him of I John 1:9. Encourage the disciple to confess this as a sin and understand that God forgives him. From this point on, he can set out to live in obedience to the Word of God. Admonish him to accept God's teaching on this subject so that he may experience God's blessing and spare his children of the same experience. Children should be viewed as a sacred trust to be given back to God. Teach children to obey immediately, cheerfully, and completely. Discuss the importance of family devotions. Give some suggestions of how to have them.